Maturity is a state when an individual is in a position to realize what is happening around him/her, to understand the rationale behind those happenings and does not get too elated nor too depressed by final results. Thus he/she is in a position to absorb pressures and remain unperturbed by the situations around him/her. You can realize you have now matured by looking for following signs:
成熟是一種狀態(tài),當(dāng)你突然意識(shí)到周圍發(fā)生的一切,能夠理解這些事情背后的緣由,不會(huì)因結(jié)果得意洋洋抑或一蹶不振,你就成熟了。你已經(jīng)能夠化解壓力,不被周圍的環(huán)境所干擾?纯聪旅娴男盘(hào)判斷一下自己成熟沒(méi)有吧:
1. You listen more and talk less
多聽(tīng)少說(shuō)
When we realize as human beings we are built to hear more (because we have two ears) and speak less (we have one mouth/tongue); we gain more information and whatever we speak will be based on substantial reasoning. This will provide a glimpse of a thinking individual/rational person to the audience. Thus you shall be perceived more seriously, and in turn this will add to your confidence. It is the first sign of you becoming a more matured individual than what you were before。
當(dāng)我們意識(shí)到作為人,我們需要多聽(tīng)(因?yàn)橛袃蓚(gè)耳朵)少說(shuō)(只有一張嘴/一根舌頭),我們就能獲得更多的信息,說(shuō)出的話也能基于靠譜的推斷,這會(huì)讓聽(tīng)眾覺(jué)得這個(gè)人很有思想和邏輯性。這樣你就會(huì)被認(rèn)為是個(gè)更靠譜正經(jīng)的人,同時(shí)還能增加自己的自信。這可以當(dāng)成是你和以前相比變得成熟的第一個(gè)標(biāo)志。
2. You do not shy away from responsibilities
你不再羞于承擔(dān)責(zé)任
As individuals we play a variety of roles in our societal set up. Be it for our family, our community, our friends, our country or for the human race in general. Additionally, we, being the highly successful species on Earth, should also be responsible for other species of this planet, as well as for sustaining the planet for future life forms. When you think in these terms, you behave in a more responsible manner. You not only perform your duties for your family or country, you also take care of mother earth. This makes you a matured individual on this planet。
作為個(gè)人,我們?cè)谏缃蝗锍袚?dān)著各式各樣的角色,包括家庭、社區(qū),朋友們、國(guó)家甚至于人類這個(gè)大圈子。除此之外,我們作為地球上的最高級(jí)生物,也需要對(duì)其他物種負(fù)責(zé),為了未來(lái)的生命框架保護(hù)這個(gè)地球的和諧發(fā)展。當(dāng)你這樣去思考問(wèn)題,其實(shí)也就變得更加負(fù)責(zé)任了。你不僅在家庭或國(guó)家中承擔(dān)了你的職責(zé),你還照顧到了我們的地球母親。這會(huì)讓你成為更加成熟的人。
3. You are less argumentative and more accommodating
你不再那么好辯
There are times when you think you are right in an argument but by winning an argument you may lose a friend. So, it may be advisable to refrain from arguing too much at these times. Quite often, when things are normal, the other person with whom there was an argument may realize your point of view, or it is also possible you understand his/her perspective better. For, just because someone is not agreeing to you, does not mean he/she is wrong. By arguing less, you are providing the required space and prestige to others, and at the same time you are buying more time for yourself to look at the other’s argument from another angle. And additionally, you command more respect from others. This shows you are now a matured individual。
有時(shí)你會(huì)覺(jué)得自己在辯論中是正確的,但如果贏得了辯論可能會(huì)失去朋友。所以最聰明的做法莫過(guò)于在此刻避免過(guò)多的爭(zhēng)論。更多時(shí)候,如果不是什么大事,那個(gè)有自己觀點(diǎn)的人也許會(huì)了解你的想法,或者你也可能更好的了解ta的立場(chǎng)。所以,別人不贊同你,并不代表ta就是錯(cuò)的。少辯論,也給別人提供了必須的空間和威望,同時(shí)你也能給自己爭(zhēng)取更多時(shí)間來(lái)從別的角度審視別人的觀點(diǎn)。除此之外,你還能從他人身上獲得更多的尊重。這也能表明你變得更加成熟了。
4. You enjoy each season
你享受每個(gè)季節(jié)
Most of us have a likening for either summer or winter or spring or rains. That’s fine. But there is no need to get irritated whenever your favorite season has been replaced by another one. There is a cycle of seasons and life forms adapt to that. No one can control seasonal cycles and no one should control them. So if you are enjoying changes in season, however abrupt they might seem, you have grown into a matured individual。
大部分人都會(huì)更喜歡夏天或冬天或春天或雨季。這個(gè)沒(méi)啥,但自己最愛(ài)的季節(jié)過(guò)去了也沒(méi)必要感到惱火。季節(jié)的輪替就是這樣,我們生命早已習(xí)慣如此。沒(méi)有人可以控制季節(jié)的循環(huán)也不能去控制。所以如果你很享受季節(jié)的變換,不管變得多么突然,你已經(jīng)變得更成熟了。
5. You wear a smile on your face
臉上帶著微笑
Life is a topsy-turvy event. It doesn’t matter how hard scientists/researchers try to predict it, it remains unpredictable. You plan for today in the morning, and by the afternoon you have to modify it to accommodate something unplanned. Whatever the situation may be, wearing a smile has a positive impact on your body and mind. So, if you are being found mostly with a smile, you should consider this as a sign of getting matured。
生活總是出其不意的。不管科學(xué)家/研究員多么努力的想去預(yù)言,還是無(wú)法確切估計(jì)。你早上做了今天的計(jì)劃,下午有可能就需要為一些未知事件修改計(jì)劃。不論情況如何,都帶著微笑,這樣能給身體和精神帶來(lái)積極的影響。所以,如果你總是帶著微笑,也可以看成是成熟的標(biāo)志。
6. You love children and elders
你尊老愛(ài)幼
Most of us like to hangout with friends. Most of these friends are of the same age group. However, if you like to spend time with children and older people, you should consider yourself a mature individual. Quite often, spending time with people who are not in your age bracket helps you visualize life in an entirely different manner. These moments, later on, shall be counted in your experiences。
大部分人都喜歡和朋友泡在一起。我們大多數(shù)的朋友都是同齡人。然而,如果你愿意花時(shí)間和小孩老人們?cè)谝黄,你就成熟了。大部分時(shí)候,花時(shí)間和不同年齡段的人在一起能幫你更好的以全然不同的方式看待生活。這些時(shí)刻,不久之后都會(huì)成為你的閱歷。
7. You save more than what you expend
你存的比花的多
This one does not need any detail explanation. Saving more than the expenditures will itself lend credibility to your maturity status。
這一條不需要什么具體的解釋了。存的比花的多毫無(wú)疑問(wèn)是你成熟的最可靠標(biāo)志。
8. You indulge more in reading
你更多的時(shí)間花在閱讀上
To be updated is of utmost priority in today’s knowledge-driven society. And probably one of the best ways to get informed is to read. If you are spending more time reading, this indicates you are serious about your business which is a sign of maturity。
在當(dāng)今這樣知識(shí)驅(qū)動(dòng)的社會(huì),適應(yīng)是排在首位的。要想獲得更多的信息,最好的方式莫過(guò)于閱讀。如果你更多的時(shí)間花在閱讀上,這就意味著你對(duì)自己的事情更加上心,也是成熟的標(biāo)志。
9. You take care of yourself as well as others
你照顧自己和別人
In the run of life, you may give less importance to yourself relative to your family members. However, you must realize you are no less significant. Therefore, you must take out time for yourself, and take care of your body and mind. This will, in turn lead to better performance in your duties which will render you as a responsible and matured person。
在生命的長(zhǎng)河中,也許你覺(jué)得家人會(huì)比自己更加重要。然而,你必須意識(shí)到你是獨(dú)一無(wú)二的。因此,你必須抽出時(shí)間來(lái)照顧自己,不僅身體還有思想。這能夠反過(guò)來(lái)促進(jìn)你更好地履行責(zé)任,讓你成為有責(zé)任心的成年人。
10. You seek the signs of maturity
你試圖尋求成熟的標(biāo)志
You’re reading this article; this action itself shows you are serious about being considered mature. You now seem to shoulder your responsibilities and want to know the meaning of your existence. Therefore, you are looking for things you should know/do in order to become a responsible and mature citizen. This is a sign of you now being a mature individual。
你在看這篇文字,這個(gè)行為本身就代表你想要變得更加成熟。也許你想要承擔(dān)責(zé)任,想知道自己存在的意義。因此,你在尋求那些要成為有責(zé)任成熟公民需要知道/做哪些事。這本身就說(shuō)明你正在走向成熟。
Maturity brings with it responsibility. With responsibility comes sensibility. Sensibility leads to confidence. So move with confidence to show the world you have now matured。
成熟帶來(lái)的是責(zé)任。責(zé)任帶來(lái)的是感悟。感悟帶來(lái)的是自信。所以自信的向這個(gè)世界展示你已經(jīng)成熟了吧。