新概念雙語：6種方法直面拒絕：收獲更完美自己

1. Realize it’s inevitable。

一、明白這是不可避免的。

Let’s face it, not everyone is going to think you are as indispensable and wonderful as your mom does. The expression, “Get used to rejection” may be trite and overused, but it certainly is true。

勇敢面對，并非所有人都像母親那樣認(rèn)為你是完美不可或缺的。俗語“習(xí)慣被拒絕”可能過于陳腐，但確實(shí)如此。

2. See rejection as an opportunity to learn。

二、視拒絕為學(xué)習(xí)的機(jī)會。

Don’t let yourself move on until you can verbalize to yourself at least 3 lessons from the experience of rejection. Even if you were rejected unfairly, there is always something positive you can take away from the experience。

不要輕易忽視被拒，至少從中總結(jié)出3條經(jīng)驗(yàn)教訓(xùn)。即使受到不公正的拒絕，其中總有積極方面的經(jīng)驗(yàn)可循。

3. If you deserved to be rejected, then own it。

三、如果被拒是應(yīng)得的，就勇敢承擔(dān)下來。

Sometimes, believe it or not, we all deserve to be turned down for something. Take responsibility for any foolish decisions you made, or behavior in which you engaged. Then, do yourself a favor: don’t repeat the error。

相信與否，有時(shí)每個(gè)人在某種情況下都應(yīng)當(dāng)被拒絕。為做出不成熟的決定或行為承擔(dān)責(zé)任，然后再自我救贖，不再犯此類錯誤。

4. Be compassionate toward others who face rejection。

四、對被拒的人抱有同情心。

Once your heart’s been broken by that rejection email, you can empathize with others who are going through the same thing. Be there for them. And someday you may have to write that rejection email. When you do, remember how it feels to be on the receiving end。

曾經(jīng)被郵件拒絕傷透了心，在別人有同樣經(jīng)歷的時(shí)候保持同情，站在他們的角度立場上�？傆幸惶炷阋�通過郵件拒絕別人，非做不可的時(shí)候，記住顧及到收信人的感受。

5. Take the high road。

五、選擇較高的姿態(tài)。

Avoid the temptation to blast the person or organization that just turned you down, especially on social media. You can never take that tweet or Facebook status down. It’s there forever. If you must speak to the experience of rejection publicly, then let your words reflect grace and dignity。

避免因被拒而經(jīng)常遷怒別人，特別是社交媒體。你不可能永遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)離Twitter或Facebook等社交媒體，它們無時(shí)不在。如果必須要公開被拒的經(jīng)歷，盡量選擇優(yōu)雅而體面的字眼。

6. Don’t give up。

六、決不放棄

If you give up on that book idea, business venture, job pursuit, grad school idea, or whatever, then your experience of being rejected was a waste. Never let a devastating, cry-your-eyes-out, come-from-nowhere experience of being rejected go to waste. “Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again。”

如果你因?yàn)楸痪芫头艞壛藙?chuàng)意、創(chuàng)業(yè)、求職、升學(xué)等等，不管放棄什么，都浪費(fèi)了這些被拒的經(jīng)驗(yàn)。不要白白浪費(fèi)掉一次讓你遭受了打擊、付出了淚水、不明所以的被拒經(jīng)歷。“振作起來，收拾行裝，重新開始。”