新概念雙語(yǔ)：別的女人背地說(shuō)你壞話怎么辦

如果別的女人老是喜歡對(duì)你評(píng)頭論足的，來(lái)看看怎么對(duì)付她們吧!

1. Confront them 面對(duì)她們

If someone judges you every time you meet them, it may be useful to simply talk to them. A frank conversation usually helps women to understand each other. You may discover some facts you didn`t know about her and it may help you to understand her attitude towards you. You may even be able to prove that you are not as bad as she thinks. Don’t do it, though, if you see that she doesn’t even try to understand you。

如果某人每次一看見(jiàn)你就對(duì)你評(píng)頭論足，那就簡(jiǎn)單地跟她們說(shuō)幾句，也許會(huì)有用。一個(gè)坦誠(chéng)的談話通常有助于女性互相理解。你也許會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)事實(shí)上你對(duì)她并不了解，這也許能有助于了解她對(duì)你的看法。也許你甚至能夠證明你不是她想象中的那樣壞。但是，如果你發(fā)現(xiàn)她甚至都不想要去了解你的話，就不要這樣做。

2. Don’t judge them 別去評(píng)判她們

Just because other women judge you for being strong and independent doesn’t mean you can judge them for being weak and passive. Like it or not, people are afraid of strong women – probably because they are not brave enough to be a bit stronger than they are. They may be jealous of you and the fact that you`re better than they are. Instead of judging them, try to help boost their self-esteem and inspire them to become stronger。

僅僅只是因?yàn)閯e的女人評(píng)價(jià)你為堅(jiān)強(qiáng)而獨(dú)立并不意味著你就可以說(shuō)別人軟弱消極。不管你喜不喜歡，人們都害怕堅(jiān)強(qiáng)的女人——也許是因?yàn)樗齻儧](méi)有足夠的勇氣變得像她們那么勇敢。她們也許會(huì)嫉妒你，但事實(shí)是你比她們更優(yōu)秀。試著幫助她們激發(fā)自信并且鼓勵(lì)她們變得更堅(jiān)強(qiáng)，而不是去評(píng)價(jià)她們。

3. Don’t lose motivation 不要失去動(dòng)力

Strong women always have a reason to be strong. Whether it was your choice or something or someone pushed you to become strong, you should never forget your root motivation. The success you have now is the result of your hard work. Focus on your own life and ignore those who’s trying to ruin it。

堅(jiān)強(qiáng)的女人總是有理由去變得強(qiáng)大。不管是你的選擇還是某些事或者某些人逼你去變得更堅(jiān)強(qiáng)，你都永遠(yuǎn)不應(yīng)該忘記你的初衷。你現(xiàn)在擁有的成功是你努力的結(jié)果。專注于你自己的生活而別去在意那些試著毀了這一切的人。

4. Realize your mission 明白自己的使命

Every successful woman should realize that her mission isn`t all about herself only. You`re a perfect role model for the young ladies. When looking at you and your achievements they`ll try to catch up with you and understand that nothing can prevent them from getting what they want. You make the world better by just being yourself。

每個(gè)成功的女性都應(yīng)該明白自己的使命不是僅僅只是關(guān)乎自己一個(gè)人。你是年輕女性的完美典范。當(dāng)她們看到你的時(shí)候，也會(huì)努力地去追求你所擁有的成就，并且明白沒(méi)有什么是可以阻擋她們追求自己想要的東西。你如真地做自己，才讓世界變得美麗。

5. They’re not worth your attention 她們并不值得你注意

As a successful woman you have plenty of things to do and your schedule is always busy. Every minute, every second, every moment of your life is extremely important. Then, why do you waste your precious time worrying about other people`s opinions and judgments? Women who are constantly judging you simply have nothing else to do. They are lucky to have a lot of free time for gossips while you are trying to reach your goals and boost your success。

作為一個(gè)成功的女性，你有很多事情要做，并且你的排期總是很滿。每一分鐘，每一秒鐘，甚至你生命中的每一刻都是非常重要的。那么，為什么你要浪費(fèi)你寶貴的時(shí)間在擔(dān)心別人對(duì)你的意見(jiàn)或者評(píng)價(jià)上呢?那些經(jīng)常在背后評(píng)論你的女人們只是因?yàn)闆](méi)事可做。當(dāng)你在試著達(dá)到你的目標(biāo)跟追求成功的時(shí)候，她們卻很幸運(yùn)地?fù)碛泻芏嚅e暇的時(shí)間來(lái)八卦。

6. It`s your own choice 這是你自己的選擇

Among anything else you should remember is that it was your own choice to become strong and independent and you probably knew what to expect. You`re not the first successful woman in the world, after all. Those role models you were looking for the inspiration from also had the same problems with other women`s judgement. You should be wiser and stronger to deal with the difficulties you can`t avoid。

在別的其他事中你需要記住的就是，是你自己選擇讓自己變得更堅(jiān)強(qiáng)跟獨(dú)立，并且也許你知道未來(lái)會(huì)是什么樣的。畢竟你不是這世界上第一個(gè)成功的女性。這些你正在尋求鼓舞典范也許跟你一樣有同樣被別人指指點(diǎn)點(diǎn)的問(wèn)題。你應(yīng)該更理智更堅(jiān)強(qiáng)地去處理這些你無(wú)法避免的困難。

7. It makes you stronger 這會(huì)讓你更堅(jiān)強(qiáng)

Their attitude wouldn`t kill you and what doesn`t kill you makes you stronger. Their gossips and judgments are useless. In fact, if someone talks about you that means you`re important and popular. Learn how to ignore them. Remember you are smarter and stronger than they are。

她們的態(tài)度不會(huì)打敗你，反而只會(huì)讓你變得更堅(jiān)強(qiáng)。她們的流言蜚語(yǔ)是沒(méi)有用的。事實(shí)上，如果某人談?wù)撃愕脑?，那就表示你很重要并且很受歡迎。學(xué)著怎么去忽略她們。記住，你比她們更聰明更堅(jiān)強(qiáng)。

8. Find support 找到一些支持你的人

Women tend to compete with one another and they usually regard other women as their opponent and it starts from the early childhood. That`s why you may find it difficult to get any support from other women when you`re successful. However, you have family and friends and they can easily help you to stay confident and stay positive even if you`re always judged。

女人們總是喜歡跟別人比較，并且通常會(huì)把別的女性當(dāng)做是自己的敵人，這從童年就開(kāi)始了。那就是為什么你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)當(dāng)你成功的時(shí)候，很難去從別的女人那里獲得支持。但是，你有家庭跟朋友，她們很容易就會(huì)幫你保持自信心和積極性，即便你總是被評(píng)判。